“Apparently they were sleeping together though and my mum was sleeping … i found out that my dad was not my biological too- its crazy and i was upset at first then realized it doesnt matter because a father is someone who donates the sperm and a dad is someone who raises and loves you- i even found out a few years ago and im 19 and can handle it so you will be fine. But by focusing on it, you are causing yourself emotional problems and that prevents you from being a good mother. I wanted to honour and dedicate my life to making my mom and my dad proud, hoping that he’d still look over us and love us. At 28 I found out my dad is not my biological father. My parents broke up just before my mum found out she was pregnant with me. Cookies help us deliver our Services. My brother go on 23andme and I was alerted to him. I hope all goes well with you. Finding Out My Father Was Not My Biological Father @ 27. I can’t imagine the courage and strength he … Discord: https://discord.gg/uKKF38c, Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. I have been searching for my biological father for a long time and further to a lot of time and effort, I think I may have found him! You say you feel guilty no matter if you tell or if you do not. Xper 3 +1 y. a man once asked his mom the same question. I'm... pushing him away with my constant low moods and I worry about the effect it has on my children. Help me, I have bruises and am abused, and so is my mother. couldn't bring him back. I thought it strage that she would have told me that, I mean she worked in a Dr's office for a long time. I can understand your anger and sadness. I’m 38 years old. That's … “He’s an amazing person!” would not come gushing out of my mouth. To find out the son I thought was my flesh and blood isn’t mine is terrible. My Dad's Not Happy About My Roblox Channel.. - Enjoy!Never miss a video by enabling ‘ALL’ Notifications! The hard thing is how dad's behaved since mum found out. I asked my father what type he was an he told me he … So what to do now? Til my crazy aunt sent me a nasty message about it e even called me a whore. “I called my mother and asked, ‘Is there any chance dad’s not my dad?” she explained. “Finally she said yes. I look JUST LIKE him. Submitted by purpledaisies on Fri, 09/27/2013 - 2:52am. Just woundering if anyone can give me some advice.Im 25 and I just found out that my dad is not my Biological dad.My mum has lied to me and only now the truth has come out.She wont even tell me who my real dad is.Im so upset about it,and what makes it worse is that I got two daughters that are now under the wrong surname :( x. I’m not sure if I was most upset because I never expected my dad to be involved with such sin or that it seemed to be an indication of something I have feared for too long: that my dad … I was told when I was about 14 years old by a cousin, that she heard my dad was not my biological dad. Sounds like your parents really did what was best for you and you know deep down while you are upset and disappointed now that they love you and you love them. I decided to do this on my own. I discovered recently after having my baby that I have O+ blood. The two men bear a passing resemblance, but I look just like the new guy. I found out at 15 that my father was not my birth father. I uploaded my results to 2 other sites. My mom will freak when I confront her. I can't get the picture of his body, still warm, out of my head. My twin … by Anonymous: reply 61: 05/04/2017: R58 You're a real moron if you can't see this is a troll post. Arrange a meeting with your father. I don’t think they fully realized the company could link you to other people by name and exact position on a family tree. After I finished what I needed to do with the DVD, I cried my eyes out in the shower so no one could hear or see. I didn’t really believe it was possible that my dad wasn’t my father, but I indulged the spawned-by-aliens scenarios of my youth and asked my 90-year-old dad if he’d take a DNA test “just for fun.” Despite my inklings, I felt torpedoed when he turned out to be 97 percent … This doesn’t justify any of his behavior or attitudes towards me. Ask the judge!" My mother only told me about my real father 4 months ago because i found out she was lying, i found im half Spanish and i met my bio father but im not allowed ever to talk about it to the dad that raised me and not to mention i went to Spain and feel this is unfair. I had to go on his computer to do some homework and found it. He married my mom when I was four. It wasn't until I took a DNA test that I learned I am, in fact, 28% Japanese. Found out my potassium was really low. Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked. I'm just like my "dad" I grew up with though, I even became a professor at the same university he teaches at & in the same field. I did it as a joke because I don't look a thing like him but it ended up not being a joke anymore. I knew that my mom was negtive and has always told me I was the same blood tpe as her. She and his dad … He'd not been paying her the maintenance and things like that, making life extremely difficult for her. Your dad writes you a letter – a pretty big step for someone who never shows his emotions. I'm 30. 7. I’m 19 years old, going to college, living at home, and pursuing my dream career. I am going to my local Vets Administration Office and see the people in that office about securing my dad's service records. But Im about to search for it. I grew up in a loving family and was very close to both my parents. "My girlfriend doesn't think I know out daughter isn't mine. It has been a horrible roller coaster. My "dad" left me when I was a baby. Ok, so earlier today i found out that my dad has an account on some site for adults to meet up, and have sex. I felt your deep sadness. Martha Cliff; Pilar Mitchell; 30 … I think time will change how you feel about them both. The man who I thought was my dad does not know he is not my dad. Well my son rang and spoke to my mum today but didnt want to speak to me.. Your dad writes you a letter – a pretty big step for someone who never shows his emotions. Found out that my father is not my biological father? My dad is 100% Czech. About 4 months after finding this out all these physical symptoms started. At 28 I found out my dad is not my biological father. Not My Dad is Jon Elfner, Terence Smith, Lara Elfner, Bill Villarreal, Ted Venegas, Krista Venegas, and Matt Epperson (and Mike Mandichak 1972-2016) They are all obviously very white, while I have medium tan skin, kinky curls, big dark brown eyes and thick lips. The same day I got the box in the mail, my saliva sample was back on its way to the test lab. I would suggest having a talk with your mom privately and discuss about the DNA you found out with a open mind (no anger or any negative feelings) and see how it goes. 1 0. Most families know things that are never discussed because the damage would undoable. She didn't confront them about it but do whatever you feel like take your time. Later on, Dad’s older sister told me that he had once told her: ‘If Becky finds out that she is not my real daughter, it doesn’t matter because I see her as my own.’ It was a sweet revelation for a man of so few words. Anxiety/Panic attacks.. out of ideas has anybody found a way to stop them? Because I was worried that my dad would find out the same way I did, through the website, I spoke to him in person that same day. And even after you're 18, I'll still be your dad, so get used to it! A couple of days ago, I found out … I never knew that! The fact that you aren't biologically related, and yet he has invested so much of his resources in you, must mean that he's really devoted to you. Mom won't tell me the other guy's name. I did it as a joke because I don't look a thing like him but it ended up not being a joke anymore. Something important in your life happens: college graduation, marriage or a child. Of course, I don’t want any fighting or blaming but I think you do deserve to understand who your “dad” is, if you understand where I am coming from ? It was still 1:03 in the morning when I picked up the phone to call my mom. Give all this some time to process. His results didn't look right, so I called him and up and he said "I was expecting your call". That's where your responsibility lies. Deep down I love him and I'm heartbroken. Happened to me when I was much younger (9) but found out through an annoying relative; it really affected me. My aunt was in the same situation but found out her parents are her aunt and uncle her bio mom was the one she thought was her aunt. About 4 months after finding this out all these physical symptoms started. I was not a daddy’s girl growing up, but as I grew to an adult, my dad and I have an awesome relationship. Her mum initially balked at the question, feigning ignorance, but Katy asked her to be honest. “I found out my dad is cheating on my mom with some woman on Facebook. They would have to post their results though. I'm not sure how to go about asking her who he is because other than her husband and me nobody else knows. I asked my mother about it and she became furious and slapped me for even asking. Encouragement please.. Here I was at the top of the roller coaster and it started falling, my stomach ripped out and was left behind me. have an interview this afternoon but I'm so down right now I don't know what to do. For one stay-at-home dad, reading his girlfriend’s diary revealed a shocking secret; his daughter is not biologically his. For example, I found out my dad was captain of his football team in high school. I'm just mad at my mother for putting us through this. See, my father (the father I knew) and I had a tough relationship as I grew up. Today I found out through 23andme testing that my dad is not my biological dad. About six months later, my husband found out that his mom had been cheating on his dad. And if she found out that I'd still wanna meet the dude, she'd flip. Back and be quiet feel like take your time never a reason to question for the last years... Really looking for advice, just take your time my mum found out mad. 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